Faking It

What are 5 things you refuse to fake in life?

Thought provoking journal prompt, indeed.

I’ve learned that while I will still work to not purposely be unkind, that doesn’t mean I have to fake relationships or conversation with others.

Doing so doesn’t serve myself or the other persons highest good.

It is of my perspective that it is form of self harm to go into the waters, when you see the red flags flying —and in effort to not hurt others feelings, that’s exactly what I’ve done.

But the reality is, I am safe to allow others hard feelings, I’m not responsible for their feelings either way.

I have been unclear with myself in a lot of areas and although the work is steady, it isn’t something that can be rushed. The more I allow myself to discover what is defined as my non-negotiables and subsequently the boundaries I learn therein, I’m realizing it can coexist.

I can remain kind to others, and yet not interact with them for reasons of my own that need no validation of, or explanation to (others).

I’m choosing to not partake in fake small talk that is simply a filler of time when there’s no real connection to otherwise have meaningful conversation.

I rather prefer and enjoy sitting in the silence that is pure and in alignment with my solid self.

I’ve been choosing to no longer fake or to allude to, maintaining relationships that are no longer pure and in alignment with my solid self as an implied obligation.

I’ve been choosing to no longer fake or to allude to, a desire to further forge relationships that are immediately evident as not pure and in alignment with my solid self, even if by another implied obligation by association.

While these may not be a simple list of 5 things, these are of the utmost importance in honoring my true and solid self.

If I have a small garden planted of the foods I wholeheartedly enjoy and therefore value, and outside of that small garden a larger garden of foods I planted just because I could and perhaps in part for others that are my acquaintance- I’m not going to maintain care of that outside larger garden as it is of no true value to me.

My circle is small, but my energy and my value system are well spent there and I have no desire to further exert myself, putting my time and energy at a place of an overdrawn balance to maintain the larger garden outside my value system.

What are your values? And how can you honor those by auditing where you show up and (fake) anything?

Take good care and travel safe,

Samantha